How to Overcome Challenges & Our Personal Story

Overcome Challenges











How to Overcome Challenges

Imagine for a moment you are high on life because you have just received some amazing news.  You continue to ride the high for about 3 months till one day, one very moment, the rug gets pulled out from under you.  You are sick from the news, you feel as if it’s all a joke.  You feel as if the last 3 months were just a dream you were living and now you feel embarrassed by sharing the news with so many around you.

Just like that! Bam! Gone….

Can you feel it? The high, the excitement, the pride, you are so proud and now it’s all GONE.

What do you do? How do you Overcome Challenges like this?

Well you have two choices as I see it. You can either crawl in a hole, wish that life would just stop for a moment for you to catch your breath, feel sorry for yourself, wonder why, why, why you, make excuses as to why you deserve to shut out the world, blame anyone 3 feet in front of you or you can choose to take the cards that were dealt and walk out even stronger than you were the day you found out the GREAT news.

Let’s be brutally honest here, tell me what would you do?  How would you overcome challenges thrown your way? Think of something that would stop you dead in your tracks and ask yourself what would you do?

Well, Bill and I were just stopped dead in our tracks just 2 days ago. If you remember my previous post, Goals 2012, you will see quite a bit of the high that we were on during that post.  You might have noticed too, that we were expecting.  Yes, I just said we WERE expecting.

On Tuesday, we went to the doctor for what we thought would be a wonderful simple routine visit.  As we were walking down the hall to the doctor’s office, a scene we have done quite often with smiles on our faces, we were talking about our plans with little Jr.  We called him Jr. even though we still did not know what we were having.  In fact, I got a lot of pampering from Bill,  by saying, “But, Jr. wants more ice cream, it’s Jr. who is tired, Jr. really wanted to fly first class.”  Lol….

But, this day was very different.  As we sat in the office joking with the doctor about my mood swings, what I could and couldn’t do on our upcoming cruise and how I detested meat right now we had no idea what we were about to hear.

My doctor said, “OK let’s hear the heartbeat!” I laid back and our doctor stuck a device on my belly and moved it around slowly and said to us, “Well it is 11 weeks and I sometimes can’t hear with this thing, let’s go do an ultrasound.”  At this point we really weren’t that concerned since I was clearly having all the symptoms of pregnancy.

In fact the thought of an ultra sound kind of excited us because we would be able to see the baby.  So, he led us into the room and I laid down on the table for the nurse.  She put this instrument on my belly and stopped immediately and said, “oh have you ever had an ultrasound?”  We said “Yes.” She then said, “How many weeks were you when you had the ultrasound?” We told her, “6 weeks and 1 day.” She then got up and said, “Well, I need to enter some stuff in the computer in order to capture pictures for you guys.”

Okay now the concern was getting bigger as she left the room and brought the Doctor in.  Back to the machine the nurse went and she put the instrument back on my stomach.  At that very moment our doctor looked down at me and said, “Michelle, hold my hand.  I don’t like what I am seeing.”

My heart dropped and tears filled up in my eyes.  I could barely hear or process the doctor saying, “I’m sorry the baby’s heartbeat has stopped and it looks like it stopped about 3 weeks ago.  Michelle, this isn’t your fault, you didn’t do anything. Most of these cases are genetic and it’s nature taking it’s course…….” I couldn’t hear much more after that even though he was still trying to comfort me.  I could feel Bill’s head down on my shoulder and tears were flooding my eyes and rolling down my cheeks. All I could think about at that very moment was how our girls were going to react to the news.  They were so excited to hear we were expecting a new baby in the family.  Now….what in the world was I going to do now. Not to mention how was I going to tell my family, my friends, and how are we going to get through this.

All the excitement for the past 3 months and all the celebrations were just washed away at that very moment.  Gone….

You see, life really sucks sometimes and we can’t control the cards we are dealt in life.  I know for Bill and I we had two choices.  We could be angry with the world.   Blame everyone. Retreat to a small corner of life and shut out the world.  But, we chose not too.

We both chose to do what we had to do and that was have surgery immediately the next day and pick ourselves up off the ground. Wipe away our tears and move forward.

Life didn’t stop for us and wait for us to recover.  No, it kept going on and we had to decide if we were going with it. I bet you probably didn’t even notice that we had gone through such a tragedy because we were still showing our face on Facebook where we conduct our business.  We were still emailing our list daily. We could of easily gave it a break and checked out for awhile but in this industry and quite frankly you might think we should have.  But, we know if you want to succeed you have to rise above the challenges thrown your way and overcome challenges.

Even though Bill and I have grieved in our own way together and still are we are NOT letting a tragedy in our lives stop us from what we have set out to accomplish.

It’s all up to you on how you can Overcome Challenges

So I write this story to inspire you and hope that you walk away knowing that we are NOT invincible.  Life happens to us too and it sucks sometimes.  But, Bill and I have a big enough “Why” to know that no matter what cards are thrown our way we will overcome.  Life does not stop for us and we know that.  We refuse to let challenges break us and bring us down. It’s like the universe puts those challenges there to see if we are strong enough to handle them.  They are there to break us but they can’t break the weak. We are strong!  We are strong and we know that when challenges come our way it’s our opportunity to come out stronger and wiser. We take the lemons we are dealt and we make some damn good lemonade.



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  • So sorry for your loss. Even though life sucks sometimes, life does go on and you do as well. You both are very brave as a lot of people would of crawled in that hole and stayed there. Try to have a good time on your cruise and my god bless the both of you.

  • Michelle & Bill,
    Very sorry to hear about your news indeed. Even though we may not understand why things happen your spirit, courage and inner strength to move forward is admired. What we choose to not allow to crush us, makes us stronger and our experiences can serve to inspire others. Your ‘Why’ is strong to see you through.
    In thought, warmly.

  • Hello Michelle,

    I hear you. We experienced the same thing way back in 2004. So I know the feeling and Im sorry about the loss. Good thing, life doesn’t stop there and God has way more better things and has in store for us. Maybe its not yet the right time but time will come. Thanks for the inspiration and everybody knows that you are such a good leader and person. Take care and God bless.


  • Chris Aarhus says:

    So sorry to hear Mr. and Mrs. P :( We have gone through this as well. With this business you have MANY praying for you and wishing the best.

  • I am so sorry for your loss, I can’t imagine how you and Bill feel. I want to thank-you for having the courage to share your story with others, because I am at a place in time when I need to tap into this kind of strength….Bless you both


  • Nicky says:

    Ohhhh, Michelle and Bill I am so sorry for your loss – I was very saddened to read that news, but thank you for sharing it.

    I’ve had a pretty testing few days myself, but not in comparison – you are both an inspiration to me, so stay strong but take it easy.

    Very best wishes to you both and your girls,

  • Dale Horton says:

    Michelle & Bill,

    I was very sorry to read this post. My wife & I went through a similar experience twice & I know how heartbreaking it can be. My thoughts are with you. I thank you for showing courage and leadership even as you go through this difficult time.


  • Sallie says:

    Sorry to both of you for your loss. Everyone grieves different. It is good to not let it consume you. No one should feel guilty for how they grieve. We can’t rush it or evade it. ~Sallie

  • Michele and Bill,

    I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I can imagine how shocked you had to be. I have an idea how hard that news is for you and Bill.

    I was an Ultrasound Tech in my other life and you have no idea how hard that discovery is for the Tech and the Doctor as well.

    My thoughts and prayers are with you two.

    Everything does happen for a reason.

  • Aurore Jones says:

    I am also very sorry to hear that Michelle, wow!!! and I know that something greater will come your way, your faith and belief that life carries on is the mark of a true leader. More babies, more life, more friends, more wisdom, more love, more of everything….

    God bless you Michelle and Bill. :-)

  • Michelle & Bill

    I’m very sorry to hear of your loss and I can imagine how devistated your felt after hearing this information. My thoughts and prayers are with you both as you experience this loss!

    I thank you for demonstrating your courage and leadership at this time!

    May God bless you Michelle and Bill!

  • Ruth says:

    Hi Michelle, so sorry to hear about this. I really admire your courage to put it in writing.
    God bless you two.

  • Dear Michelle & Bill,

    You always rise above, as you have in sharing your personal loss with your internet friends and colleagues.

    We are here for you.

    Donna Marie

  • Dear Michelle and Bill,

    I’m terribly sorry to hear about your loss. I think it’s amazing how you have allowed us to know about this and also apply the story in such a poignant way.

    I pray you find some peace in the midst of this chaos. Thank you for being who you are.

    Love and thoughts,
    Cat Alexandra

  • Allison says:

    Love you my friend. Just cried all over again reading this. So proud of you guys and are here if you need anything. Love you both!

  • Lee says:

    Sorry about the loss Michelle. But I’m sure that God has plans for you and your family. Thanks for the leadership that you continue to bring to our industry.


  • Ryan Byers says:

    Michelle and Bill, What a powerful message and I am very inspired. Thank you for sharing this experience with us. My thoughts and prayers are with you both. I’m very thankful to have you as a mentor!


  • Adrienne says:

    Oh guys, I’m so very sorry! To be honest with you, I would have curled up in a ball and totally lost it. Oh yeah, I would have had my feel sorry for me day, maybe two but then you are right, we have to pick ourselves back up and keep moving forward.

    Sometimes there are no answers to our “why”! So we have to accept it as the way it’s suppose to be and keep moving forward. Still not fair sometimes but there’s absolutely nothing we can do about it.

    I truly am so sorry for your loss but I’m so glad you chose to keep moving through this and know that there will be another day!

    Thanks for being so raw! You guys are the best!

  • Louise Milner says:

    Dear Michelle and Bill,

    So sorry for your loss, it’s very sad news for the both of you and your family. My thoughts are with you and I wish you a full recovery soon, physically and emotionally. It’s an inspiration to see you go forth with your business and carry on. Remember to also allow the time you need to grieve. I understand; I went through this twice. It happened many years ago and took a while before feeling ready to add to the family again, but when the time was right I had a son. Stay positive and take care.

  • jaime says:

    I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. You are a true inspiration for all of us starting in the industry.There is a saying “Men Don’t Cry” but you got me into tears. I really love your posts and now is when I saw this one. I always follow your tips and I’m just starting my Journey.
    Thank you for sharing this experience with us, keep it up and I always say. Don’t give up and Do not let anyone kill your Dreams, Michelle and Bill you guys are the perfect example of humbleness and true Leaders overcoming any challenges, specially this one. Wow, I’m speechless now.
    May the Lord be with you and bless your business forever..

    Jaime (El Tigre)

    • Bill Pescosolido says:


      Thank you so much for your kind words. We’ll always continue to keep growing and building (both business and personal wise). Good luck with your journey and let us know what we can do to help.


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